A year ago, I returned to NYC to attend a friend's surprise birthday dinner. I agreed to receiving the gifted round trip ticket a couple of weeks prior. The intention was to only stay for 11 days and come back to NYC in a few weeks to lead a Live Embodied Celebration.
After a few days of being in NYC, another friend asked if I HAD to go back since I'd have to fly back anyway. I checked my calendar and said, "Not really." I wanted to stay in NYC, but didn't know how to go about it.
That night I was on Facebook and happened to see a friend post that she was looking for a dog and house sitter. The dates not only coincided with the dates I needed but a few days more. Could not believe it. I reached out to her and soon my eleven day trip soon became a month long stay. I even let go of figuring out a return date back to California. It didn't feel right and decided to trust what's ahead.
One of my favorite quotes from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho is "...when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it".
No kidding. Don't believe me?
This chart is a representation of where I stayed in the last year. The "how" has been an unimaginable journey. I seriously couldn't have planned all of the wonderful and magical things that have transpired - and all of the dark depths I traveled to within myself. Perhaps, one day I'll share the juicy details in my book. For now, here are a few of my insights about finding a "hearty yes to your adventure".
Practice with a little "yes". Dip your toes in a little adventure of something outside of your comfort zone. Perhaps, something you've always wanted to do. Take a baby step, but do so in a way that makes you still feel stable and balanced. As much as it may appear that I may be jumping all into something, what you may not see is that I've been practicing and leading up to it so that I can more confidently go for the bigger "YES!" Find your baby steps.
Ask for help. In our culture, there's a lot of shame around asking for help. We value independence. What I've learned is that people want to help, they just don't know how to help. People will step up to help in a way they can, but the important part of the equation is communicating how you can be helped. Not always an easy action step. I'm getting better and still learning. I started with people I felt comfortable asking.
Be open. In any adventure, we don't always know where the road may take you, who you will meet and what you'll learn. Being open to receiving allows not only the little things, but the big things. And if you want those big things, better get used to receiving the little things. It's all preparation.
While not an exhaustive list, it's a good place to start to learn to embody your authentic life adventure.
I'd love to learn about your unexpected adventures and the tips you'd give. It's one of my favorite topics of conversation as there's often so much resonance and realization we're not alone in our experiences. Please, share them with me.